WHY YOU HAVE HATERS, EVEN IF YOU’RE A NICE PERSON

WHY YOU HAVE HATERS, EVEN IF YOU’RE A NICE PERSON

Are you confused as to why you have haters – because you think you’re truly a nice person?

And YES, you ARE nice!

So, what motivates a hater to hate? And why are they choosing you to hate on?

Below I share many reasons why haters gonna hate – for no good reason at all!

Why nice people have haters?

1. You have haters because you’re popular.

Some people only hate you because of the way other people love you.

Another definition for a hater: “Someone who secretly wishes to be you.”

In a way having haters is a good thing. It’s means you are truly loved.

2. You have haters because you did the work to improve your life.

Your haters don’t want to put in the effort to improve their life. As a result, your success reminds them they are not willing to put in effort to succeed.

Plus, your presence reminds them about what’s wrong with them – and what’s missing in their life – so they hate you.

Basically, it’s the ones who are against you who believe in your power the most.

In many ways these people who hate you are (ironically) your biggest fans. They admire all you’ve accomplished – and are quite simply jealous.

3. You have haters because you have risen above them.People who try to pull you down often do so because they see you as above them.

Perhaps you used to be equals – at about the same level. They feel left behind and trapped at their level of existence – and just don’t like any change in their life.

They want to put you back in your place so that things remain status quo – instead of accepting your status improvements.

They’re hating on you to bring you down – to diminish your power and shine – so as to make themselves feel better.

This reminds me of a terrific Zig Ziglar says: “Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you.”

4. You have haters because you’re going through a bad time – and your uneasiness makes them uneasy.

They worry your bad luck is contagious. And/or they just don’t want to put in the effort needed to cheer you up and cheer you on.

Basically…If you want to find out who’s a true friend – screw up or go through a hard time – then see who sticks around.

5. You have haters because they feel they’re missing out on being around you.

Perhaps they once rejected you – in some way – for something. Or…in general, they used to feel you weren’t good enough for them. Then you had the audacity to improve yourself and your life! (How dare you! )

As a result, your haters now feel like they are missing out on the new improved you. They need to still dislike you  – so they don’t feel like they are missing out.

Or maybe you simply are choosing not to socialize with them as often as they want. Or work with them. Or maybe you don’t even know them – and they don’t know how to get to know you – and that bugs them – because they feel they’re missing out being around you.

6. You have haters because you overcame a shared problem.

You used to share a problem in common: overeating, or binge drinking, or toxic romantic partners.

You then found a way to leave the problem behind you – while they are still caught up in the chaos.

Your newfound peace causes them angst, regret and self loathing.

7. You have haters because they hate themselves.

These people are simply not capable of love and connection – with anybody.

Maybe they are a narcissist, sociopath or have some kind of personality disorder. Perhaps they had a terrible childhood – and thereby hurt people want to hurt people. Or they were raised with hateful, judgmental beliefs.

As adults, they never awakened to see the wrongness of these limiting beliefs.

Unfortunately, all of these types of people are mostly comfortable with resentment and drama.

Basically, happy people don’t hate. And people who walk around hating aren’t happy.

WE DON’T MEET PEOPLE BY ACCIDENT. WE MEET FOR A REASON.

WE DON’T MEET PEOPLE BY ACCIDENT. WE MEET FOR A REASON.

I believe you don’t meet people by accident – they come into your life for a reason.

Yes, even the crummy ones.

If a relationship doesn’t survive the test of time, it doesn’t mean it still wasn’t meant to be.

Not all encounters with people are supposed to last forever. 

Sometimes the “forever” is not the person – but what we gain from them.

There’s a synchronicity and purpose for each person you meet. Both our positive encounters with people and the negative, challenging encounters we suffer through.

Below are some insightful reasons why we don’t meet people by accident.

We meet people for a reason.

1.Some people are “bridges.”

These people are not meant to last for the long road ahead. They are an enjoyable pathway to get us to where we need to go.

These people are needed to arrive exactly at the time and place you met them – to transport you to the next level of your life journey.

You meet these people for a reason – even if they are only here for a season.

2.Some people are “roadblocks” and “re-directors.”

These people come into your life to delay you – for both little things and big things.

For example, you might have a conversation with someone – which then delays you and prevents you from getting into a bus accident.

Or you might spend time with someone – and this time spent creates a “time hiccup” which delays you – so you wind up meeting a new, amazing, romantic partner.

You might have heard the expression, “Sometimes rejection is a redirection to something better.” Well, that’s what these people do. They might show up as a rejector – but they are a redirector.

3. Some people are “assignments” and “teachers.”

Often your tormentors double duty as your mentors.

They are here to teach you important life lessons – via the process of pain – which helps you to grow who you are.

Their “crisis pain” creates the “crisis fuel” you need – to motivate a necessary change you didn’t want to put in the effort to make.

Plus, some people are just straight-up inspiring teachers – who teach you life lessons in a more loving manner.

4. Some people are “angels”

These people are here to protect you and remind you to stay safe and stay self loving.

They are “guardian angels” of some sort.

Their purpose: Make sure that you do not stray too far from the path you are meant to be on.

In times of need and desperation they help you – when others are not there for you.

5. Some people are “guideposts.”

They represent and symbolize something you want.

Their purpose: Motivate you to keep pursuing what you want – and stay on track.

Their presence helps to make sure you stay awake, energized and committed to moving forward on your soul’s true-to-you journey.

6. Some people are your “tribe.”

These are the ones who are here to stay the long haul.

These people are far and few between – but they are the ones who are loyally there for you during tough times and celebratory times.

They see you clearly and accept you as your “flawesome” self.

Tribe members support you when you are invisible to others.

Tribe members root for you with a pure heart – when others might feel competitive or jealous.